Rebecca "Becky" DEEMER
What name did she go by? Walter's (her grandnephew) family referred to her as Adala. Helen (her great granddaughter) called her Becky. Her brother Aaron's obituary lists her as Rebecca. Various census records have her as Rebecca, Adala, and Adala R.
She was born in 1843 although the exact date is uncertain. According to Helen Manherz, her great granddaughter, she was born near Myerstown in Lebanon Co. This is consistent with other records. Myerstown is just west of Stouchsberg where her parents, John and Catherine, were married in 1842. And it's just south of Bethel Twp. where the family appears in the 1850 census.
In the census of 1860, when her family resided in East Hanover Twp., Dauphin Co., Rebecca appears as a 16-year-old living with Charles and Ann Rosinberger in West Hanover Twp. In this census her name was spelled Demer. Her brother, John, appears on a Civil War monument in nearby Linglestown with the same spelling.
She married Christian Bucher (born about 1837), a carpenter. the couple had two known children:
In the census of 1870 the couple appears in the 4th ward of Harrisburg. Sometime after 1870 Rebecca remarried. Her second husband's surname was Swartz and he died before 1910. By 1910 she was living with her granddaughter., Caloma, wife of Harrison Mateer, at 2539 Penbrook Ave., Penbrook, PA (on the edge of Harrisburg). (Caloma was Kate's daughter.) In the 1910 census she's listed as the mother of 5 children, 2 living. She was still there in 1923 when her brother, Aaron, died. Her son, John was a neighbor.
Records of Rebecca's death and burial have not been found.